3 things I learned in my Marriage

5 Oct

I’m a happy wife with a happy marriage. Although there are days when I feel lousy (like last night, my attempt to make Oriental Beef was not very successful), my husband still makes me feel loved and adored. I know that there are many things I need to learn, unlearn and relearn to make our marriage work. Learning is a continuous process. And here are some important lessons I learned in our marriage along the way…

1.)    Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. I’m so blessed to have a husband who loves the Lord more than anyone else in the world (and yes, more than me). Having God in the center of our home and having prayer a daily part of our lives makes our married life stronger each day. Not to say that we never encounter arguments. We do! (Maybe just less than normal couples… I can say that we have a very peaceful and happy home) God helps pacify both of us when we are both in heat! Keep God in the center of your marriage!

2.)    Don’t keep record of wrongs. Ok. I’m at fault. Sometimes, it’s just hard. It’s hard to not remember the things that he said or did, but the Bible says: Love keeps no record of wrongs. I am still a work-in progress in this area and I’m gonna have to work on it a little harder because this can be detrimental to any relationship. It will kill your joy without you knowing it.

3.)    Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Oh gosh. It’s me again. One thing I learned and am still learning is to sleep sound and peacefully at night by forgiving and forgetting. Sometimes it’s not easy. We had an argument last weekend. I knew what the Lord wanted, He reminded me that verse. And all I said was, “Lord, I will not sleep until my anger still lingers in my heart. Please help. I really want to sleep now.” The Lord answers prayers. He reminded me of how my husband loves me so much and that like me, he is a work-in progress. The more you let your anger stay in your heart, the harder it sticks and the harder it will be for you to take it out.

And to my ever loving husband… Chances are you will not be able to read this post, but I just want the world to know that I am so blessed to be your wife and I can’t ask for anything more (except a yellow dress and dinner in Yellow Cab on my birthday, just those).

I love you and happy 4th monthsary! =)

What have you been learning in your own marriage? Are there tips you want to share with us?

20 Responses to “3 things I learned in my Marriage”

  1. Mellisa October 7, 2010 at 4:45 am #

    Those are all important lessons – I think the best one I can think of is to know what while you may not do things the same way – that the end result and effort should count for something.

    Stopping by from Lamby Tribe.

    • viviene October 7, 2010 at 7:13 am #

      Hi Mellisa! =) I agree.. the effort should really count for something.

      Thanks for dropping by. =)

  2. Mimi October 7, 2010 at 4:57 am #

    Wonderful list! Happy Anniversary!

    ~Mimi from your Lamby Tribe

    • viviene October 7, 2010 at 7:15 am #

      Thanks Mimi =) I visited your site and can I just say… I love your banner =) I like the lay-out. It’s cute and girly!

      Thanks for dropping by =)

  3. Erin October 7, 2010 at 7:12 am #

    Great list. Wise words to live by.

    Stopping by from Lamby…

    • viviene October 7, 2010 at 7:17 am #

      Hi Erin. =) Great to hear from you. I just needed to remember these often =p

      Thanks for visiting. =)

  4. Sorta Southern Single Mom October 7, 2010 at 8:30 am #

    Stopping by from the SITS Lamby group. Happy Anniversary! Good advice!

    • viviene October 7, 2010 at 9:32 am #

      Hi there! Thanks for stopping by =) your latest entry reminded me of mommy boots (today’s SITS girl) =p

  5. Suzanne @ Mommy Moves Again October 7, 2010 at 7:22 pm #

    Thanks for coming by! Yes, my background is Filipino! Glad you found me from SITS, come back again! 🙂

    (the looking young thing, totally a genetic (Asian) thing, I’m 41!) :0

    • viviene October 8, 2010 at 8:06 am #

      no! 41????????? i know that Asians do look younger but you are superb! i can’t believe this! (seriously, I’m surprised!)

      Anyway, thanks for visiting too.. =) will drop by your blog often =)

  6. Chrissy MacCEO October 8, 2010 at 8:54 am #

    Visiting from Lambie Tribe….those are GREAT lessons, thanks so much for sharing. We can all use reminders like these every now and then!

    • viviene October 8, 2010 at 12:58 pm #

      Hi Chrissy! Thanks for stopping by. =)

  7. adriel October 10, 2010 at 8:07 pm #

    Oh, these are such great tips and i totally agree. I think the most essential ingredient for a healthy marriage is humility. If you can be humble with each other, you can get through anything. 🙂

    • viviene October 11, 2010 at 7:39 am #

      I’m so blessed to have a very humble husband. I just need to learn that a bit more. ^_^

      Thanks for stopping by!

  8. ElizOF October 10, 2010 at 11:03 pm #

    You have offered three excellent tips for couples and people in relationships in general and you are not alone in holding some anger… we are all works in progress.
    Both of you make for an attractive couple and it is a blessing that God is the foundation and center of your marriage. Be blessed!
    Looking forward to more posts…
    I’m a Lamby Team member and have subscribed to your blog and more.
    Have a Happy week ahead!
    Elizabeth

    • viviene October 11, 2010 at 7:40 am #

      Thanks so much Elizabeth. God indeed is the only great foundation for every marriage. =)

      Thanks for visiting! =D

  9. Wyletter Whaley October 13, 2010 at 12:42 am #

    Stopping by from We♥Wordpress Tribe. Good list. These lessons are helpful in all relationships.

    • viviene October 13, 2010 at 7:26 am #

      Hi Wyletter! Thanks for stopping by. =)

  10. Duddy June 30, 2011 at 7:21 am #

    What timeless wisdom in these suggestions for creating and maintaining a strong, healthy and long lasting marriage.

    As a professional counselor, I have a duty to tweet!

    Gratefully,
    – Duddy.

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